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A couple who had been living in different places for a long time, because the wife carefully prepared five dishes to welcome her husband, but the husband, who was accustomed to cooking in one pot, thought it was wasteful. The fight eventually ended at the divorce registration office. Experts said that the root cause was that each other did not understand each other’s feelings.
“The couple wanted to divorce because they had a fight with each other because they had 5 dishes in the meal” has been on hot searches recently and has sparked heated discussions. Marriage and family counselors analyze that this is a typical “emotional mispayment.” The husband is looking for financial accounting, while the wife wants emotional value. Netizens said that in life you must learn to understand the other person’s unspoken love.
According to Chao News, China’s national second-level psychological counselor and first-level marriage and family counselor Wu Haiyan shared an actual marriage and family counseling case in an interview.
A couple lives apart from each other for a long time and meets each other only once a month. As the only daughter in the South, my wife prepared five fried, fried and steamed dishes to welcome her husband when he returned home after a long absence. She said that this table of delicacies was the reunion she had been waiting for for a long time, and was full of longing.
The husband is from the North and is accustomed to the “one-pot stew” lifestyle. After looking at five recipes, he thought it was too wasteful for a family of three to eat. The two argued till two in the morning and went straight to the divorce registration office the next day.
There are actually regional differences behind this matter: the man’s hometown is accustomed to making stew, meat and vegetables are cooked in a pot, and there is a pot of vegetables on the table. It is customary for a girl’s house to have a plate of meat and vegetables, fried, stir-fried and cooked, and perhaps placed on a plate.
Men also overlook the time and effort that their wives put into buying, washing and cooking vegetables. They ignore the urge behind careful preparation. They ignore the “I love you, I can give you time and energy” behind their wife’s behavior. He only sees “expenses” that go against his own lifestyle. A “pointless” evaluation is incapable of expression. It only looks at its own habits and frugal mindset and ignores the dedication and love of the other person.
Some netizens said that life should be carefully calculated, but if the calculation is too precise, it loses the human touch, and the home becomes a cold accounting room. Some netizens also lamented that the most precious thing between a couple is never the little money they save, but their care and concern for each other. Many marital disagreements are not over principles. The hardest thing is not to get along, but to learn to understand the other person’s unspoken love.
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To welcome her husband back home after a long absence, the wife took great pains to prepare five dishes to express her longing and the joy of reunion. According to his concept of frugality, the husband believed that there were too many dishes and that they were very wasteful. The result was that the dispute between the two parties escalated from a matter of lifestyle to divorce.
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Experts believe this is a typical “emotional mispayment”: the husband calculates the economic accounts and sees only the costs and waste; The wife attaches importance to the sentimental value and considers cooking as an expression of love and waiting. The problem is not in the five dishes, but in the fact that each of them did not see each other’s feelings.
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This news reminds couples that when living together, they should not only consider the differences in money and habits, but also understand each other’s unspoken love. Of course, living a life requires careful planning, but if dedication and emotion are ignored, the home can easily become a cold accounting room, and small things can grow into cracks.
