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Patrick’s dating rumors sparked heated discussions. Doctors analyzed that male attraction comes from emotional value, social skills, confidence, and a sense of harmlessness, but also reminded that boundaries should still be maintained in interpersonal interactions.
The late-night revelation of Taiwanese host Patrick dating a “headphone girl” also sparked a discussion among netizens: “Why do some men who are not conventional handsome boys have particularly good relationships with the opposite sex?” Psychiatrist Yang Kangkai pointed out that appearance is only the first impression. What really makes people more compatible with each other is often emotional value, social competence, self-confidence, and a reassuring “harmless feeling.”
Recently a news related to entertainment has come to light. It was revealed that host Patrick had a late night date with a woman wearing headphones. Later the identity of the woman was revealed as a popular goddess of the sports world. This attracted the outside world’s attention to the relationship between the two, and also unexpectedly sparked discussion among netizens about men’s opposite-sex relationships and personal charm.
Yang Kangkai said that from the perspective of psychiatry, brain psychology and social psychology, when people choose companions or intimate contact partners, appearance is usually only a part of the first impression. What can truly build long-term attraction also includes “emotional value”, “social intelligence quotient (EQ)” and the ability to create a comfortable and safe interactive environment.
The first is “high emotional value”. Yang Kangkai said that men who have good relationships with the opposite sex generally know how to listen and empathize. When the other person complains about work pressure and life’s worries, he will not be quick to preach or respond. Instead, he will be the first to understand emotions and make people feel “cared for and understood.” Coupled with moderate humor and self-deprecation, this can make living with each other comfortable and enjoyable, and naturally lead people to get closer again.
The second is “social acumen and high EQ”. This type of person is more aware of other people’s feelings, needs, and subtle changes, and knows when to care and when to maintain a distance; They also know how to joke appropriately and will not make others feel offended just for the sake of making others laugh.
The third is “confidence and personal characteristics.” Yang Kangkai pointed out that it is easier to build lasting attractiveness by being able to accept yourself, not worrying about appearances, and showing confidence in work or areas of expertise, rather than blindly pursuing an ideal appearance. A person who focuses his attention and conscientiously does what he is good at can inspire people around him to appreciate and favor him.
The fourth is “the feeling of harmlessness and trust.” Compared to people who have an image of being cold and distant, people who are friendly and communicative let others off their guard and gradually create a sense of intimacy through chats, gatherings or work interactions.
However, Yang Kangkai reminded that good rapport with the opposite sex does not mean that interpersonal relationships can have no limits. When meeting with friends or work partners of the opposite sex, you should still take each other’s emotional state and your partner’s feelings into account, maintain appropriate boundaries, and practice open and transparent communication. Otherwise, what was originally a good relationship may turn into unnecessary misunderstandings or emotional disputes.
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Because this news has attracted the attention of the outside world, non-traditionally handsome men can also be rich, which has increased the discussion of “which qualities are more attractive to the opposite sex”, and the focus has become on personal attractiveness and conversation ability.
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He believes that appearance is the first impression. What really attracts people in the long term is the emotional value of being able to listen empathically, the social EQ that knows how to measure, the confidence to show off your attributes and the reassuring feeling of harmlessness.
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Because even if you are well-liked, if you ignore your partner’s feelings and lack transparent communication when interacting with friends or work partners of the opposite sex, it can still lead to misunderstandings, crossing boundaries, and even develop into emotional disputes.
