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A Chinese parent reported that White American families do not emphasize academics, but instead use sports, interests, social interaction, and experiences to create another type of “casual competition” that is fraught with pressure.
Is it really easy to raise children in the United States? OneSugar Parents “Little Sweet Potato 65AB46CC” Recentlylittle red book Sharing comments and pointing out that although some White American families do not directly compare their children’s math progress or test scores, they place great importance on sports, interests, social interactions, and life experiences. Superficially, the emphasis is on happy development, but the actual schedule for the summer holidays has already been set, creating another kind of cool competition.
“Little Sweet Potato 65AB46CC” said that these parents often say “we just want them to have fun (happy)” and claim that they don’t want to put pressure on their children. However, their children’s extracurricular activities may include skiing, horseback riding, tennis, swimming, summer camp, camping, and art courses, and they may also arrange trips to farms, museums, or outdoor experiences on the weekends. Educational goals require not only reading, but also the hope that children can develop play, interests, social skills, and expression skills to become so-called “well-rounded” all-round developers.
What “Little Sweet Potato 65AB46CC” feels tense about is the vague comparison between the parents. When she mentions that her child is learning to swim, the other party may first agree, then ask if she has gone to a certain club and recommend a better coach. This type of interaction may appear to be about sharing information, but it can also reveal the resources and life circles to which each other is exposed. “Little Sweet Potato 65AB46CC” pointed out that it also arranges a large number of courses, and directly enrolling in ten classes can easily be called excessive pressure. However, if you take your children to different activities every weekend, it will become a “rich childhood”, and there should still be a sense of relaxation even in competition.
Many comments agree that American parenting is not distasteful, but the direction is different from the theme competition that Chinese people are familiar with. Some parents shared that their three children can participate in golf, gymnastics, swimming, dance, debate, and STEAM courses respectively. Bus picking and dropping off, training and out-of-town competitions require a lot of time each week. If you want to reach a competitive level in certain activities, you also need long-term practice and it’s not just fun.
However, some netizens believe that not all extracurricular activities need to be understood as a comparison. The living environment in the United States is relatively dispersed. If children have no arrangement, it is easy for children to stay at home for a long time and use 3C products. Participating in sports teams, scouts or community activities is also a way for families to integrate into school and small town life. Some parents also volunteered to serve as team coaches to continue the growing up experience they were familiar with from childhood.
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The article points out that American parenting is not directly compared to academic performance, but instead displays family resources through sports, interests, social contacts, and life experiences, creating a competitive model that is simple on the outside but much more profound in reality.
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These families often say they want their children to be happy, but in reality they arrange skiing, horseback riding, tennis, swimming, summer camps, camping and art classes, and on weekends there are often farms, museums or outdoor activities.
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Because many extracurricular activities require a long-term investment of time and transportation costs to reach competitive standards, and parents will compare resources, instructors, and quality of activity, competition shifts from mere academic subjects to lifestyle.
