A female graduate student at Tsinghua University since 2000 was reprimanded for “disorderly personal life”. Why didn’t he fight back?

A post-2000s graduate student at the Academy of Fine Arts at Tsinghua University, known by the online name “Kono Mora”, was recently criticized by some netizens for having a “chaotic personal life” and “seizing educational resources” because she became pregnant and gave birth to a child while studying in graduate school. He was also scolded on trending search. In the face of online violence, the man concerned was concerned about the negative impact on his alma mater. The counselor at Tsinghua University took the initiative to call her to console her, “Just be yourself and complete your studies well,” and obviously provided assistance.

According to the reports of ifeng.com and Sohu News, the girl has graduated from Beijing Institute of Fashion Technology. To pay off his student loans, he worked for two years and then successfully entered the Tsinghua Academy of Fine Arts after two postgraduate entrance examinations. After entering the first year of graduate school, she and her husband successfully prepared for pregnancy and accurately calculated the due date around New Year’s Day. He used the winter break and the Spring Festival to make up for the imprisonment, and returned to school uninterrupted after the imprisonment.

She admitted that when she first got pregnant, she was very afraid of being asked to leave school or being discouraged by her teachers. Fortunately, the school was tolerant and the teachers were reasonable. She revealed that 90% of the cost of childbirth was reimbursed, and the school also had a mother and baby room, which allowed her to recover from postpartum depression and the pressure of completing classes and complete her studies.

This incident created a fierce storm of public opinion and heated discussions began on the Internet. Many netizens left messages to make personal attacks and criticism. “Having a baby during graduate school means your personal life is in disarray, and your life is over.” “It takes up valuable graduate school quota and educational resources.” In this regard, the person involved admitted that he thought about taking screenshots and posting them one by one, but later directly deleted the curses and negative comments and decided not to take them seriously. Some rational netizens also left messages of support, “They did not suspend school, did not delay graduation, and continued to work in the classroom. Whose resources did they seize? Some people’s excessive concern has led itself into the wrong direction.”

Background information shows that the girl’s experience included several special conditions, including Beijing Universities’ high 90% medical insurance reimbursement ratio, Tsinghua University’s full maternal and child room facilities, appropriate teachers, as well as the client’s mild morning sickness and the full support of her family.

Media analysis pointed out that the person involved does not need to be praised as a “winner in life template”, nor should he be treated as a joke. This incident highlighted that there is still very little scope for women to have children in society and the university system. What is really worthy of discussion is how to balance academic studies and childbearing through universal medical reimbursement, increasing maternal and child care rooms, and implementing a flexible school system so that female students no longer have to rely on precise “time jams” and bear enormous pressure alone.